For Granted.

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 I recently went home from New York to visit family. While home, I was away from Ty for one long week. It made me miss him. They say that  distance makes the heart fonder. I believe that. 

I slept in a cold empty bed. I woke up many times during the night to wrap myself around someone who was not there. Even Baby Scarlett woke up screaming the first night home. I don't know if she could sense that he wasn't there or if it was a belly ache. Maybe the combination of them both. But she cried for quite sometime. I held her and cuddled her and told her we would see Daddy soon.     

She finally fell asleep in my arms and I started to think about my little family. I thought about how many people don't know what they have until it's gone. Ty does so much for me and Baby Scarlett. When someone gives and gives, it often starts to be taken for granted. I realized in that moment that I had started to take him for granted. I guess I am human. I thought back on the last month or so. Things had been stressful in our home. Just as I had left my job, Ty got laid off and we needed to make some serious decisions quickly. What would we do? Things were stressful and, I, being a person who stresses out easily, began thinking the worst. Ty told me everything would be okay and we would be fine. I snapped at him. I told him that he is always so sure about everything and that he couldn't predict the future.  

                                                                                                                                                                      And then, there in the middle of the night, with Scarlett in my arms, I felt an enormous amount of sadness come over me. I needed that moment to remind myself how much he does and how wonderful he is. I needed that moment to make me appreciate him all over again. I missed him. I missed us, together, as a family. I realized I had taken my happiness for granted. No one can be sure of the future, but the fact that Ty was going to do everything in his power to make us all happy meant something. It meant that he loved us. But I was so quick to put him down. 

In all relationships, there are givers and takers. One who is content in giving and who likes to please. Then, there is the one who needs more attention and likes to be doted upon. Although we both do our best to make our relationship the great one that it is, I am, definitely, the taker and Ty is the giver.                                                                                                                                                                   

In that moment, I realized all that he gives to us. So I held my baby girl in my arms and I thought of a way that I could repay him. Sure I could spend my savings on gifts for him, or take him out for massages and dinners. But those things weren't good enough. They would only please us for a moment. I decided that the best gift I could give him, was to give. I would give to him as he had given to me all this time. I would appreciate him and not take him or my happiness for granted.

Ty, I promise I will try to be better at the following:

~I will listen more and not interrupt
~I will get my own drink or towel for once 

~I will try and be more patient

~I will make you dinner once in awhile

~I will appreciate you and all that you do for me, because I realize, that nothing is for certain in this life and I want to cherish everyday that I get to spend with you. 

   If you have someone in your life that means a lot to you, if you have someone that does a lot for you, tell them you appreciate them. Tell them you love them and do good things for them, too. Nothing is promised in this crazy world we live in. The people that mean a lot to you should know. Don't take them for granted.... 
If you love them, let them know.